Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder


How often have we heard this saying ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’? Now, think how many times have you felt the urge to define someone by the way he or she looks? Or judged people on the basis of how their face is, how they dress up, how tall or short one is or on the basis of someone’s skin tone. Well, we are all guilty of ‘judging a book by its cover’ at some point in our life! The times we live in has made beauty all about being fair and slim.

What have confidence and success got to do with fairness? Beats me; but fairness cream marketers would want you to believe that to be successful you need to be fair. If that was really the case then most of us wouldn’t have wasted our time attending school and college, isn’t it? Knowledge and its application brings success as does hard work. Make no mistake, looking presentable is important to make an impression but that won’t guarantee success. Besides advertisements, movies and serials set an unreal expectation with regards to what constitutes beauty. Sadly, all we see today is plastic beauty. The pressure to ‘look good’ is so high that people don’t think twice before putting their health on the line to achieve the perfect figure. Some even go for cosmetic surgeries, a risk they are ready to take only because fashion magazines define beauty in a certain way.

The feel good quotes such as ‘beauty is skin deep’, ‘love the soul and not the face’ etc is sadly confined to Social Media alone. Once we start applying these to our lives as well, we would have no need to spend money on make up or make overs. Of course, I’ve no objection to those wanting to do so voluntarily but it is the commercialization of beauty and the excessive pressure it exerts on people that I am against. Our ancestors have left us enough material with regard to ‘Shringar’. We might as well put that to use rather than running behind western concepts of plastic beauty.

Why would I spoil something God has endowed me with because a bunch of marketing guys believe that it isn’t perfect? I may not have the perfect nose or slimmest body but at least I’ve the brains not to spoil what nature has given me.

As I always say



Be happy and keep smiling and see how it radiates on your face making you look all the more gorgeous. Have your own standards for beauty rather than towing the line of cosmetic companies and beauty industry.



Breaking stereotypes

We live in times where conformity is the norm. Everyone just wants to ‘fit in’ and play the role that society has given them. And if you try to be yourself then you are instant labelled ‘attention seeker’. Right from childhood we are taught that being different means abnormal. Well, it is not ABNORMAL…it’s just finding your hidden self ! Each one of us is just a face in the crowd but each face has a story that is unique to it. Behind the mask that we wear is the urge to break free, the desire to do what your heart yearns for and what others think is crazy. All said and done when you get ready to take the risk and just do what seems crazy, you find happiness.

Nothing is right or wrong, everything is subjective and hence varies from person to person. Want to make money? Doesn’t mean you are greedy. Feel the need to save what you earn? You aren’t stingy if you do that. Think your career is stagnating and you have better prospects quitting the job? Of course, you aren’t being brave or silly. Don’t want a size zero figure or want to lose weight? Either ways it is your individual choice. Beauty magazines, relatives, friends, Bollywood etc can’t and shouldn’t decide for you. A girl who loves bikes and wears Jeans-Tees isn’t necessarily a tomboy. A guy liking saas-bahu sagas is not a weakling. Humans are complex beings with a range of emotions and displaying emotions is not always a sign of weakness. Being yourself is more important than feeling compelled to behave in the way society wants and compels you to.

Here are a few things my experiences and interactions have taught me

  1. No matter what you do people will always have a contrary view
  2. If you always try to fit in, then sooner than later you will lose your true self
  3. It isn’t what others think but what you think that matters
  4. People love judging, whether or not they know you doesn’t really matter
  5. Gossip mills always work overtime but that is none of our business. Our job is to concentrate on ourselves

By getting bogged down and boxed in and by following what society expects us to, we are simply killing freethinking and creativity. Great civilizations were build not by conformity but by freethinkers and courageous rulers who dared to dream.

In my opinion just go ahead and do what your heart asks you to….as long as it isn’t illegal and won’t land you behind bars !!!

PS: If you think I’ve left out anything or even if you disagree with what I’ve said feel free to comment.

PPS: Please keep interactions civil.